Dr. Due Books

By: Tye Green

Who says baseball is America’s favorite past time? Millions don’t watch baseball, but everyone has at least once has used self gratification to either pass the time, release tension, or what most should use it for; fun!  For some reason women don’t like to admit that they masturbate. It’s taboo to discuss, think about, or partake in. If the “norm” or what’s proper is to not masturbate, why does the female sex toy industry make tens of millions of dollars each year? Even in a woman’s reluctance to admit enjoying this “guilty pleasure”, numbers don’t lie.

Almost all women have been brought up not to masturbate. It was looked upon as “being emotionally unstable”, “weird”, or “unladylike”. We are much more evolved today than ever. We are bombarded with others exploring their sexuality on TV, film, and other media, yet we still feel guilty about partaking in an act that is just as natural as breathing. Whether you want to admit it or not, most women masturbate. Granted, some more than others, but masturbation is important not only to a healthy sex life but for general health purposes as well. Orgasms naturally release tension forcing your body and mind to relax. So you won’t feel like you’re the only one doing it in the dark here are the numbers, “A new study reveals 92% of women regularly take time out to masturbate, a huge jump from the findings of previous studies (74% in 1979 and 62% in 1953)” Jezebel 2008
 

What’s the taboo all about? Who said that masturbation is bad? Was it religious groups? Maybe it was Emily Post. I’m joking about the Emily Post statement, but you have to admit her “standards” are way out dated and I wouldn’t be surprised if she told young women that masturbating is something they should not do. Even though society, some religions, and whom ever else says that masturbation is wrong, we still can’t help ourselves. Although we indulge in the act and reach orgasm, there is guilt and shame felt afterward as if we’ve done something nasty or impure. A study done by Joyce McFadden in 2008 says that “70% of the respondents felt guilty, and 80% of them were never taught about it as a normal aspect of human sexuality - with a surprising 4/5 of those women being under the age of 35 and raised by mothers of the post feminist era.” Films are a good representation of pre feminist eras, especially period pieces. Not only are they entertaining, but it shows the viewer how far civilization has come, in particular with women. We’ve come from being seen, not heard to not being allowed to work, to not being able to wear pants in the 20th century. Openness about our sexuality, our bodies, and self gratification are still stuck in the stone ages. Sounds subhuman to have had to suppress our natural desires, personalities and such just to be a normal part of society. But ladies, those times are long gone. More and more, we’re coming out of our shells literally; expressing ourselves in all ways especially sexually.

Don’t be afraid to get to know your own body, and don’t feel guilty about it. It’s your body. Only you know what it is you like, and more importantly you cannot have an orgasm until you’ve given yourself one. Some women think they have, while others know for a fact they haven’t, but until you’ve explored your body completely you have no idea about what an orgasm should really feel like. You have no clue of what places on your body drives you sexually insane. If you’re still not convinced ….. Edinburgh Erotica places their  top ten reasons to masturbate on their website; the list is below.
 

Ten important reasons to masturbate -

   1. Masturbation lets us explore our body and discover the sensations and caresses that excite us the most. We learn more about our sexual needs and the way to satisfy them. Of course, we can then share this knowledge with our lovers…

   2. Masturbation procures a real relief, physical and emotional. It relieves the tensions born from our sex impulses and helps us go to sleep. No more need for sleeping pills!!

   3. It makes us more realistic by teaching us to separate sex from love. Having an orgasm does not mean being in love!

   4. If you are lonely, you might still not resist that chocolate bar, but if you masturbate regularly, you (probably) won’t crave sex so much that you go and have it with just anyone.

   5. Masturbation gives you the opportunity to concentrate on your own pleasure without being too worried about your partner’s.

   6. Masturbation helps fight certain sexual dysfunctions: great difficulty reaching an orgasm for some woman.

   7. Masturbation will increase the frequency of orgasms, with or without your partner. Young woman who are used to reaching orgasm through masturbation will more easily reach orgasm with their lover.

   8. It is good for your health: orgasms lead to an increase in blood flow, render the skin more brilliant and fight the effects of stress. For woman, orgasms strengthen and, at the same time, soften the vaginal muscles, handy when making love.

   9. The Kinsey report proved it; people who masturbate early in life lead a more active and fulfilling sex life, and for a longer time.

  10. There is nothing wrong with feeling good.

 Know yourself, enjoy yourself, and most of all love yourself completely. You’ll be glad you did.

Until next time